Building A Love

So many of us fall into the stereotype of the order of life: Go to school, go to college, get a girl/boyfriend, graduate, get a job, get married, have a family…

Some don’t do it in that exact order. I’ve known people that get married before they graduate, but most are immediately after they graduate.

Why do they want to get married so young, with so much debt? Not all will graduate with thousands and thousands of dollars of debt but most will.

Are they so in love that they can not be away from each other and a ring is the only way to stay connected? Will looking at that band bring back the feelings of how they feel about each other even when they’re away? Is it because they can’t live with out each other that makes them want to have a formal commitment to another? Do the words “I do” mean the same thing as “I won’t leave you” ?

A man I once worked with said that he was a bonified bachelor. There was no woman who could tame him. He was rough to the bone and ate nails for breakfast… until he met his wife. He told me that when he saw her, he knew that she was the one. I joked by saying “Finally found someone you could live with, huh?” and he slyly smiled with his retort

“You can live with just about anyone… but its about finding the person you can’t live without.”

Words to live by.

But here and now at this young age people get married with nothing to their name but a hope and a dream, the American Dream. One to start a family and build a life full of memories good and bad. To take vacations and watch their kids grow. But where does it start? In a parents basement, with just enough money to pay the bills? Driving a $500 salvage back and forth to work? Is it all worth it when you come home to that beautiful face that you’ve made a formal commitment?

Is a love built between two people when the times are the best or the times that are worse? When you have nothing but the socks on your feet and a bowl of Ramen for dinner do we build the bonds that will strengthen our love? Because we have each other, do we desire anything more? Will riches make our love grow? Or is it when times are the worst that we realize all that we have and all that we need is right there in front of us?

When we look back at our lives in our latest years will we smile upon the most fruitful times or the toughest? Is that when we felt our love was the strongest? Is it because we suffered together make us closer forever?

To quote from Snow Patrol “…but I can barely see your face in front of mine… and it is knowing you that are there that makes me fine…”